Homies..........

I find the homie to be fascinating. I am of the generation where homies were most prevalent. I am always amused and surprised when I come across homies. Even though I don't identify with the homie I do want to point out that it's a hard life to be a thug, pimp or homie. Let's talk about the first and most obvious example which is......

The wardrobe.....


Now in the homie culture there are certain things a thug needs to wear and a thug lady equally has the pressure on her to meet the required homie dress code.


There is the grill..............





The 3 levels of baggy sagging pants....







Proper foot wear is key to a homies look




Every true homie has to have a pimp cup



A sweet ride is a homie must.....



Either a hat worn in this fashion or......



A do rag is acceptable as well.



Let's not forget friends about the lady homies. these gals have a certain style they must keep in order to fit into the homie culture.




Apple bottom jeans



Boots with the fur







A gigantic pair of hoops that will eventually stretch your ear but looks cool in the meantime.



Oh yes there is more to being a homie then just having a sensitive soul and being just all around do - gooders. Now that we have covered how one must dress to be an acceptable homie I would like to salute homie trends of the past that are no longer with us.....


The flat top R.I.P.





Yes it did used to be cool for a grown man or woman to wear and utilize a pacifier...
LOL WTF? R.I.P.



Clearly it is not easy to be a thug. This really is a topic that is made for more than one blog post so stay tuned friends for future homie posts! We will be covering why I am absolutely convinced mini vans are time portals for homies and other related tid bits of goodness....:)

Naughty Girl!

Oh Bettie You Naughty Little Vixen..............


Today friends we are going to answer a few questions that I have recieved on a few different fetishes. My thoughts and opinions are all I can offer but I do love your emails!

Dear: Una Bella Anima,
My husband and I have been together for 8 years and I just found out that he likes to wear my panties and sometimes lingerie. It grosses me out and now I am having trouble being attracted to him. Please help.



Dear Confused,
This is a good question. In my opinion there are a few issues here. To start, why wasn't he comfortable telling you about his desires earlier? Maybe he is ashamed or thinks you won't like it and that it will change the dynamics of your relationship.


Wait? Are you saying that's not sexy?
Ha ha ha...:)


There are websites like this one http://hesinpanties.blogspot.com/
In my research on this topic I have found many straight men that enjoy wearing womens clothing. I think it takes an incredibly open mind to accept it. To be honest accepting it and being attracted to it are two different things.

Dear Una Bella Anima,

My husband recently told me that he wants to try experimenting in bed. I thought that was a great idea! He wanted to try out costumes in particular. I was thinking maybe he was talking about a french maid or naughty nurse or something. It turns out he was talking about dressing up in giant fuzzy animal costumes and making the animal noises during the act. I am not into this. Do you think he will get over it? I am in shock!



Dear Shocked,
I can see your confusion my mind would automatically go to a less extreme type of costume as well. That being said...............
This fetish is commonly done by people that call themselves furries. Furries are grown men and women that like to dress up in animal costumes for sexual purposes. They are also known as furs or furverts. Most of the communication between furries happens online. There are clubs that cater to this life style as well.


Ha ha ha !!!!!! I can't help it sorry...:)




Oh Goodness...bwa ha ha stop it stop it...ha ha ha ................


My heart goes out to both of you gals because I truly feel these fetish's in your men are not going to go away. I think we all know what we are comfortable with and if you are not comfortable with it then don't do it. Intimacy should be enjoyable for both people involved. So I say either have a serious talk with your honey's or, Mrs. confused you are going to have to buy him some panties of his own and Mrs. shocked you are going to have to put on a chicken suit and start clucking! Best of luck and hugs to you both...XOXOXO

Cherubs And Chocolates Y'all..............

So bloggers Valentines Day is almost upon us and I thought it would be fitting to blog about this traditional celebration of love. We exchange cards, candy and flowers every February 14th in the name of St. Valentine.


Who is Saint Valentine?
No one really seems to have an answer for this question. There are many legends and you can decide which you would like to believe. Catholics celebrate 3 patron saints named valentine. My favorite legend is this......

Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emporer Claudius II decided that single men made better soldiers than those with wives and families, he outlawed marriage for young men - his crop of potential soldiers. Valentine, realizing the injustice of this decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine's actions were discovered, Claudius ordered that he be put to death.

Cherubs..........

A cherub is a type of divine being mentioned in the Bible, usually understood as a high ranking angel. In my research I could not find any connection between a cherub and Valentines day. Many describe a cherub as a baby angel with a chubby rosy face that shoots a man and then a woman with an arrow. The two will then fall madly in love.

In America we have traded making our own valentines for the ones we can buy from the booming greeting card industry. Many men in today's society feel that this holiday is way too commercialized for their liking and even feel pressure to make no mistakes with their sweethearts on this day.

I would like to salute my roots. Yes friends Valentines Day Southern Style.

Awe... ain't that sweet??????

Oh! Sweetheart you shouldn't have! I'm fixin to give you a smooch!

Purdy...heee....heee....

So friends my advice is simple. Grab that sweetheart and celebrate in a way that is special to the two of you. Men fight the urge to be annoyed with the fact that the holiday has become very commercialized and remember your little gestures mean the world to your gal.

xoxoxo.........

Passion

In a utopian world we as people would always be happy and in love. Living our lives full of passion and never experiencing heart break. Since this world does not exist we probably won't always be happy and some might never experience a lasting love. Passion in my opinion comes in all varieties. We can be passionate about anything such as art, travel, history or our very journey through life. I would like to explore the reality of passion. Embracing our own truth and the reality that it is a precious gift to be alive and to love and be loved.

Passion = Any powerful or compelling emotion or feeling, as love or hate.

Women in my opinion are extremely passionate people and expect the same from their male companions. But lets be honest gals, when is the last time a man rode up on a white horse to sweep you off your feet?

Wait what? This doesn't actually happen? Thank's a lot Disney!

So here we are in the daily grind of our lives. If you have children you absolutely live in beautiful chaos but chaos none the less.It has been said that a person can't truly understand the change that happens in your life after having children until one has their own. Even good changes can be challenges. I believe one of the biggest challenges and my focus for the day is the relationship between you and your sweetheart. Especially after having children.

Oh yes this can happen to you my friends.....

So how do we keep our lives full of passion and romance when we are just trying to survive the chaos?

I am in no way officially qualified to answer this question. That being said I will do my best to provide my thoughts on this matter because I have recieved many emails from blog readers thinking I am capable of this type of advice.

So here goes..............

After some time has passed in a relationship people start taking eachother for granted. They stop doing the little things that they did in the beginning to win that persons affection and appreciation. try to think about your partner as much as possible the way you did in the beginning. Besides just an adoration for your partners qualities as a human being passion also comes from sexual attraction. Much of this sexual passion is lost after the birth of children. A woman is tired and even if she musters up enough energy to please her partner she may very well lack enthusiasm. It is pretty much to be expected that during the first few years of a childs life there is not going to be very much time to nurture your relationship with your love. I believe that when a child becomes a little more independent it's important for a couple to start investing more energy into their relationship again.

Men and women are creatures of habit. Make it a habit to explore your partners desires. A man wants to feel masculine and a woman feminine. Embrace that for the raw animal nature that it is. Most men feel particularly masculine when they can support their woman and make her happy, recieve her gratitude and feel needed and wanted. Most women feel feminine when they feel supported, understood and safe to relax and let go.

Most women in modern society feel their is too much pressure on them with a job, children, and housework that they feel they can't relax and feel supported. This kind of resentment usually brings on what men traditionally refer to as "nagging." On the male side of this it is easy for a man to not feel as masculine as they would like. Traditional roles that men have taken in the past to support their women have been reduced in today's society.

I'm in no way saying we need to go back to a time when the roles of a man and woman were very clear and defined. I am saying that given our changes in society and family dynamics we need to be aware of all aspects of our relationships and figure out how to make ourselves and our partners feel needed and in that passion can thrive.

Ah ha ha ha right!

The best thing to do is talk to your partner. Ask them what makes them feel appreciate and supported. In turn tell them the things that make you feel appreciated and supported. Then it's time to set the standard for your relationship. Now if the standard is your man wants you to dress up in a giant furry squirell costume and juggle his nuts then well that is just an issue for a different blog on a different day!

Bwa ha ha ha

Yeah, that just happened.........................

Truth be told some couples just aren't meant to be together and that is no one in particulars fault usually. It may just be a lack of connection or many other various factors that in the end can often lead to a break up. Try to notice your partners good intentions even if the behavior is not one that you would prefer. Being direct is also a good way to communicate to your partner exactly what you need or want. Many times misunderstandings could have easily been prevented with solid communication. Do things that you did in the beginning. Men if you kissed your woman on the forehead in the beginning do it forever. She will appreciate it trust me. Women do the loving things you did for your man in the beginning as well. Changing the dynamics of your relationship could cause a new fresh approach to life. You can see things through new eyes. There are two relationships that a couple need to be aware of and nurture. The co-parenting relationship and the relationship with their partner. Both need to be cherished and nurtured in different ways.

So shave your legs ladies and throw on some heels and get ummm...... Communicating.....:)

Mr. Kind Heart Part 2

Mr. Kind Heart and I had a pretty great first date. It was so nice to be on a date with a man that was actually paying attention to what I was saying not staring at my ummm... assets??....lol

Ha ha ha......

When my Mr. Kind Heart talked about his daughter it was clear that he adored her. He was genuine in everything he said and very interested in hearing about my two precious angels as well.

My Son

We will call him Buddy Boy

My Daughter

We will call her Sweet Pea

Mr. Kind Hearts Daughter

We will call her Peanut

So my Mr. Kind Heart and I were officially dating and I was learning more and more about our different beliefs when it hit me like a MAC TRUCK! My Mr. Kind Heart was a.........

REPUBLICAN!!!!!!!!!

Yes friends it is true. A Republican


So now I had to figure out what to do when you are a tree hugging democrat dating a republican lumberjack. I wondered how in the world a relationship would ever work between my Mr. Kind Heart and I. I thought maybe he was really looking for a woman more like this.......


Look away friends if this scares you!





When in reality I am a bit more like this.........


The next thing I know my Mr. Kind Heart was taking me on an adventure! I was going to my first logging show because my Mr. was a logging sports competitor. We were going to a small town near the birthplace of this man....

Mr. Kurt Cobain


So there we were my lumberjack, Miss Peanut and myself heading out to a logging show! We didn't have my two angels because my Mr. had not met them yet and it was their weekend with their biological father. I was excited! We were going to camp there for the night! Camp??? I hadn't been camping since I was 7 years old! I pictured it like this....



We got to our camp spot to camp for the night and it was already pretty late. I asked my Mr. where the ladies room was and he laughed and told me I had to go behind this huge pile of logs. I was not very excited to go behind the logs because I had never done that before. I thought for sure I would have to use leaves for my toilet paper but my Mr. brought some toilet paper! Mr. Kind Heart to the rescue!!!!!





Immediately I saw an S on his chest



The next day I was amazed at the amount of people that were there to compete in and watch a sport I had never heard of. I was surrounded by plaid and carhartt at every turn. It was amazing to me how so many people owned the same outfits. I thought that there must be a way to jazz up this lumberjack uniform at least for the ladies...:)

What do you think gals?????...:)

It's still rugged and plaid but in a way that say's I love my lumberjack and I will put my own tree hugging beliefs aside while I watch him chop a bunch of trees up.

Right before the competition started I told my Mr. I was going to the ladies room. On my way back I got lost in the sea of plaid and republicans. Try finding your lumberjack in that haystack! When I found him he was very worried. He thought maybe I was kidnapped. At first I thought he was joking and then I realized he was actually worried. That was kind of funny to me because who was going to kidnap me?

This guy??????

At the end of the competition I decided that it was loads of fun and I would like to go to another one sometime.

Miss Peanut and I at the competition 2009

I suppose that for some people dating somebody that is a complete opposite in some ways would damage a relationship. In my case My rugged lumberjack and I may have different beliefs on some topics and different interests but it works for us. I think if you are open minded and choose to truly experience life that it can be wonderful to step out of the box we put ourselves in and experience new things. My Mr. and I have the same values and morals on everything we hold dear which is family.

So what am I doing now??????




Saying yes to the whip cream..........................